Spicy Polarity

"The polarity weekends have changed intimacy for me forever. I actually got the tools to know how to create polarity & intimacy. I got to learn all about expressing my needs and desires and setting boundaries in such a way that I can create interactions where both partners feel safe and satisfied. This way we can both go so much deeper in intimacy that I thought was possible."
~ Testimonial from a female participant who has done all higher Levels

Spicy Polarity workshop series
In the Spicy Polarity workshops we focus on creating a healthy Polarity of the Feminine & Masculine energies based on Love.
Transforming that into a form of interaction that allows our Divine Nature to fully flower. In Spicy Polarity - Level 1 we will teach you the Basics that you need to know and we focus a lot on healthy Boundary setting and speaking up for your needs and desires both upfront ánd IN the moment!
For most people this is quite a challenge, specially speaking up IN the moment. However, in our workshops we have seen that there is amazing exponential growth in this field once people dedicate a few hours/days and their full attention to this.

When healthy Boundaries are in place, we will move towards Inviting the Universal Love Field to arise.
This is where the magic can start to unfold....

In the higher levels we will focus on some of the more Advanced Polarity tools. These tools will help you to take the Polarity Play to deeper levels and help you and your partner(s) go into higher (or deeper) states of Surrender!

Below the schedule overview you can learn more about the higher levels.

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We have a maximum of 18 participants!
Registration is necessary to secure your spot.

About Tantra
Tantra celebrates the Divine Union of the Sacred Feminine energy with the Sacred Masculine energy.
Creating healthy polarity, regardless of gender, leads to a vast expansion of energy.
Tantra can teach us how to liberate and transform this into Spiritual Unity.

In this workshop we will use different tools from Tantra, The Wheel of Consent, Daoism, Conscious Touch, Bodywork & BDSM to facilitate polarity based on LOVE.

Conscious Surrender
Conscious Domination & Surrender for the purpose of surrendering to something bigger than ourselves can be one of the most effective tools to enter that realm.

A powerful result of conscious D/s is a deep healing of the 1st & 3rd Chakras.
More on that in the workshop!

Consent & Boundaries
Consent and boundaries are arguably the most important elements in this practise, therefore we will work a lot with this to create a safe space.

This means that if you don't feel like doing something, we will welcome you to act on that and not engage if you don't feel like it. This is often very healing, especially for the 1st (Root) Chakra.

We will show you how to use the Wheel of Consent in a kinky & edgy way that will enhance your D/s play, create more consent and most of all:
a much deeper surrender!

Creating a Tantric Love Field
You will learn how to set up a safe space in which the Tantric/Universal Love Field can easily arise.

The 7 Basic Tools to Surrender
In Level 1 we will introduce you to 5 of "The 7 Basic Tools to Surrender"!

We will show you how to guide a person into a deep surrender using these simple yet incredibly powerful tools.

In doing so, a space for spirituality automatically opens up, making this a potentially very powerful Tantric practise!
These tools are both physical & esoteric.

Spicy Polarity Higher Levels
In our higher workshop levels we will teach you the 2 remaining tools and/or we will reveal deeper aspects of the basic tools.

The 3 ascpects we will NOT exploring
Sadism/masochism (anything related to pain)

About Pain
Pain can be pleasurable for some, but is completely unnecessary and even counterproductive long-term to bring a person in a deep conscious surrender space.

Hence we will NOT use it, nor teach anything with it, because it does not fit our philosophy.

Are you into pain? No problem, however we challenge you to try out another route as well. You might be surprised…

About Domination & Submission
Two words that are controversial and scary for one and liberating and spicy for another. But it all starts with SAFETY. So we will focus on how to create a safe space even in spicy situations.

I don't like the word submission
That makes sense, ultimately we all want to be our own person. We prefer to speak about Surrender and the spiritual “goal” is to Surrender to the Divine within us.

We use the word submission, because it is a well established BSDM term, yet, our aim is to move it towards the spiritual practice of Surrendering.
Remember, we do not work with pain, nor with humiliation. Many people have come to this workshop with a healthy scepsis and learned the deeper meaning of spiritual surrender. Also the first steps in learning to Surrender to the Divine while being in full control of your boundaries. So that will be our main focus at all times.

Do I need to have experience in Tantra or D/s?
Experience or knowledge of Tantra or Domination & Submission is welcome, but NOT needed. This is a class about the basics and how to use the Tantric perspective on D/s.

Do I need to know if I am a dom or a sub?
No, because you will be experiencing both. In the Tantric perspective, to become whole, one needs to learn how to master both sides of the spectrum. From there you will probably develop a preference for one or the other.

I am single or not in a relationship, can I still join?
Yes you can. Because it has many advantages to learn these foundations before you enter a relationship. You chances of any relationship fulfilling your needs dramatically increase by learning these tools.

Do I need to bring a partner?
No, you can come alone if you like. However, we have a maximum of 3 single males to attend.
If you want to bring your (play)partner, you are more than welcome.
Being partnered up with the opposite sex is NOT guaranteed if you don't bring a partner.

I am joining as a couple, do we have to work with other people?
No. You can do the entire workshop with your partner.
However, if you want you can join the partner rotation circle after each exercise to get different imprints and learnings, but this is completely optional.
You decide what feels right for you. And this may change during the workshop and it may also stay the same, both is completely fine!

Essence of this workship
🕉 Personal, emotional & spiritual development workshop by awakening Tantric Polarity Play, using tools from Tantra, Daoism, Bodywork, BDSM, Bodywork & Massage.
🕉 Awakening your natural abilities for Polarity by uniting the Sacred Masculine with the Sacred Feminine in a safe and conscious way.
🕉 Healing & Expansion of the 1st & 3rd Chakras.
🕉 Using The Wheel of Consent in Polarity Play
🕉 Learning to Surrender to the Divine while being in full control of your boundaries.

Deliverables (what you can learn)
☯️ How to create healthy Polarity in a personal interactions
☯️ How to Awaken your natural ability for both polarities
☯️ How to dominate from Loving Presence
☯️ How to use D/s play as spiritual practice
☯️ How to train yourself and your partner to be very clear in your boundaries
☯️ How to use loving firmness to give your partner the sensation of "roughness" in full safety and without doing any damage
☯️ How to go into Surrender safely, while maintaining FULL awareness of your boundaries
☯️ How to communicate your desires unapologetically
☯️ Deepening all the skills & tools learned in the Conscious Relating Foundation workshop.

The Schedule

Friday - Conscious Relating - Introduction
18.00 Arrival & Registration
18.30 Start of workshop
22.30 Expected ending time of workshop

Saturday - Spicy Polarity Level 1 ~ The Basics & Inviting the Love Field
09.30 Doors open & registration
10.00 Start of workshop
13.30 Lunch break
14.30 Workshop continues
20.30 End of workshop, could be flexible
20.30 Optional dinner

Sunday - Spicy Polarity Level 2 - 6 (depending on the weekend)
10.30 Doors open & registration
11.00 Start of workshop
14.00 Lunch break
15.00 Workshop continues
20.00 End of workshop, could be flexible
20.00 Optional dinner

The Spicy Polarity weekends all have the following structure
Friday:  Conscious Relating - Introduction
(formerly known as the Wheel of Consent® Introduction workshop)
SaturdaySpicy Polarity * Level 1 * - The Basics & Inviting the Love Field
Sunday:  Spicy Polarity * Level 2, 3, 4, 5 or 6 * depending on the weekend

Once you have completed Spicy Polarity Level 1, you can attend every higher level (2, 3, 4, 5, 6) on a Sunday.

All days can be attended seperately.

The Friday workshop is also marketed as a separate introduction workshop for people who want to have a taster before they decide to join the full event.

Levels overview
Level 1: The Basics & Inviting the Love Field
Level 2: Advanced Polarity Tools
Level 3: The Art of Sensual Talk
Level 4: Energy Activation & Energy play
Level 5: Throat Play
Level 6: Embracing Divine Sensuality

We have a maximum of 18 participants!
Registration is necessary to secure your spot.

Interested, but doubting to attend? Then join our Conscious Relating Introduction Workshop on the Friday evening before, so you get at taste of what we do and if it really is a safe space. This workshop is ideal for that and the exercises go less deep.
Just keep your Saturday & Sunday free, so you can join in. We've litterly had people cancel all their weekend plans in order to attend the Saturday & Sunday. So, keep your risk low, but prepare well ;)


Roger is the founder of the Tantra Secrets - Consciousness Expansion Academy and the lead workshop facilitator. He has an extensive background in Tantra, Daoism, Energy Reading, Energy Play, Hypnosis (Sexual & Regular), Latin Dance, Consent work, Authentic Communication, Trauma Release, Deconditioning, Sacred Sexuality & Meditation.

Wheel of Consent© Certified Facilitator
He has completed the 5-day "Like a Pro" Wheel of Consent© training in May 2019 and has completed the Wheel of Consent© Facilitator Certification Training with Betty Martin in July 2021. Currently he is in the process of the final certification, and officially still under the title of "Wheel of Consent© Certified Facilitator in Training".
Therefore, the topic of Consent & Boundaries therefore are always practiced and deepened in Rogers workshops!

Former High Paid Consultant
A former high paid independent consultant for multinationals, he made a drastic switch in his life towards the mystical & spiritual side of life.
His passion is maximizing human potential, happiness & authenticity!

Roger runs workshops on the topics of Personal, Emotional & Spiritual Development, Consciousness Expansion, Tantra, Emotional Freedom, Kundalini Awakening, Wheel of Consent, Conscious Relating, Conscious Kink, Polarity Play, Female Empowerment, Tantra into Zouk, Tantric Masculinity, Sex Art & Implosive Orgasms!

Licensed Energy Reader
He is a graduated & licensed Energy Healer and specializes in personal Energy Readings.
Through Energy Readings he communicates to you that which your body and your soul is trying to tell to your conscious mind, but is not being heard.

He is a trained hypnotist in the field of female orgasmic capacity enhancement. Through other hypnosis practises he also trains people to profoundly relax in a matter of seconds (without use of sexual energy).
Subsequently, the practise of hypnosis has given him a tremendous understanding of the workings of the subconscious mind, primal sexuality and the general potential of NLP and positive self-(re)programming.

Inner Child Healing
Furthermore, he works extensively with Childhood Deconditioning & Inner Child tools through which he facilitates the process of deconditioning from the negative imprints from childhood.

Gateways for Fulfillment
In Tantra, Daoism & Spirituality he found many gateways to bring more joy, happiness, and fulfillment to our lives and he has a passion to spread this wisdom!


Roger is the lead facilitator for the following workshops:

Roger is the organisor & lead-assistant for the following workshops:

Furthermore, he offers coaching (programs) in the following fields

There will always be a high Level female Tantric practitioner assisting to represent and deeply embody the Feminine principle. For the Polarity weekend  Mastery weekend either Xena Georgina, Jolien or Willeke will be our Female Facilitator. Depending on the weekend.

Xena is a modern day priestess, soulpreneur, dancer and mentor here to initiate, transform, activate. She helps women live a life and/or build a business from ease and flow that is in tune with their innate feminine essence.

Her aim is to inspire a deep sense of awe, reverence, truth, love and beauty on this planet. She firmly believes that harmony between healthy feminine and masculine on the planet can only be established when all genders acknowledge the importance of both energies & women start to live in tune with their innate feminine essence. So she is dedicated to help all beings embody their own wisdom & wake up to their innermost beauty.

Xena has an extensive background in (neuro)psychology, meditation, bodywork, Shakti Tantra & dance.

Xena completed a Shakti Tantra teacher training where she discovered the deeper and sacred side of Tantra & the magic of Sensual Shakti. After that she dove deeper into the mystical world of the sacred feminine and all its aspects through the MCA (Menstrual Cycle Awareness) method, Yoni Yoga, Multidimensional Lightwork & Shamanism.

Xena specializes in Divine Femininity, Soul Alignment, Sensuality, Shakti Tantra & Sacred (Partner) Dance. She facilitates womxn circles, ceremonies & initiations where she guides people on profound journeys into their sacred selves. She regularly hosts online women circles and conscious coworking sessions to balance the feminine and masculine energies in our life, dance, and work.

Jolien is a certified healthcare psychologist working with people with trauma for more then 13 years. She started in 2009 with an internship at a center for people with PTSD, and throughout her career working with trauma always fascinated her.

As a professional psychologist she has also worked with people with ADHD, Autism, Addiction, Depression and Anxiety disorders.

She is trained and certified in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR and Mindfulness.
Currently she works with clients with severe eating disorders.

What sets her apart is her capacity to not just focus on solving the superficial problem as prescribed by the system, but to see the person in its totality. She developed a holistic approach where it is about the process of every human being, their blockages and how to bring people to the next level in their life. The importance of using the body in therapy also makes her look for ways outside of the regular healthcare system.

Her passion for dancing and teaching Zouk since 2009 made her dive deeper in the understanding of connection with and through the body.

When she discovered Tantra, it opened up the pathway to connect her knowledge of trauma and the human mind with body oriented modalities. She is now studying body-oriented psychotherapy, breathwork and de-armouring to help people heal energetic blockages and trauma stored in the body.

She is a freelance Zouk teacher since 2010. Since end 2020 Jolien is also part of the Tantra Secrets team, and co-facilitates Tantra workshops, breathwork and De-armouring sessions.

She works together with Jasper, where they offer the perfect balance in the masculine and feminine energy in massage, body work sessions and plant ceremonies.

We have a maximum of 18 participants!
Registration is neccesary to secure your spot:


Upcoming editions:

Spicy Polarity Level 1 & 3 - The Art of Sensual Talk
Friday 15 December: Polarity Introduction

Saturday 16 December: Spicy Polarity - Level 1
Sunday 17 December: Spicy Polarity - Level 3

Spicy Polarity Level 1 & 6 - Embracing Divine Sensuality
Dates not set yet

We have a maximum of 18 participants!
Registration is necessary to secure your spot.


Workshop fee full weekend
395,- standard price for single participation, excluding meals & accommodation.

Spread Payment Plan
Two payments of € 200,-
Three payments of € 135,-
Discounts may be subtracted from last payment.

❤️  € 25,- for cash payment

❤️  € 50,- Bring-a-Friend (newby to Tantra Secrets)
(Discount applies to BOTH of you)

❤️  € 50,- Couple
❤️  € 150,- students / low income
❤️  € 50,- PhD Students
❤️  30% for repeaters 
❤️  50% on workshop fee when earning income in former communistic countries

Early-Bird Discounts
€ 50,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 3  months before starting date of workshop
35,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 2  months before starting date of workshop
€ 25,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 1  month before starting date of workshop

Payment options



Workshop fee 1 day workshop
185,- standard price for single male,
€ 135,- standard price for single female
€ 260,- standard price for an (ocassion) couple

All prices excluding meals & accommodation.

♡  € 15,- for cash payment

♡  € 25,- Bring-a-Friend (newby to Tantra Secrets)
(Discount applies to BOTH of you)
♡  50% students / low income
♡  15% PhD Students
♡  35% for repeaters 
♡  50% on workshop fee when earning income in former communistic countries

Early-Bird Discounts
25,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 3  months before starting date of workshop
15,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 2  months before starting date of workshop
10,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 1  month before starting date of workshop


Lunch € 10

Dinner € 12 (optional, is after the workshop)

To be paid separately in cash before workshop.

Please sign up for lunch and/or dinner at registration.

Lunch & dinner will be 100% Vegan + mostly Gluten-free. Allergies can be notified in registration form.


This is a non-residential retreat!
However, couch surfing can be provided for € 15,- p.p.p.n. Matras, duvet, pillow, covers & towel included.

● Private double-bed room can be provided (if available) for € 65,- per room per night. Max 2 people.

A third person can be added for an additional € 25,- per night.

Amsterdam Oud-Zuid.
Exact location will be provided after registration.

Public  Transport:
Train & bus stop close to the location.
Direct bus from Amsterdam-Schiphol Airport that takes 20 minutes to the location.


Friday & Saturday it is paid parking 9.00 - 23.59 for € 4,50 per hour! We have a max of 5 free parking spots available, sign-up for that during registration.
Sunday is free parking. 

Registration is necessary to secure your spot & early bird discount: