Tantric Massage & De-armouring

Tantric Massage honours the Sacredness of the body through loving pleasurable touch & heart energy.

De-armouring is a technique specifically designed to let go of pain, numbness, insensitivity, trauma and sexual limitations.

The combination of Tantric Massage & De-armouring is extremely potent & powerful, potentially opening the body to deep pleasure and its innate orgasmic capacity.
And consequently enabling the innate Life Force Energy (Kundalini Shakti) to flow more freely.

Testimonials - What others learned in this workshop
“It helped me express my emotions in a way I never did before. Don’t remember when I cried so long last time and express physically anger in this way. This workshop helped me to drop some of my baggage” and continue in my journey lighter 💗

I also enjoyed the laugh, togetherness, vulnerability. What was happening during the workshop also helped me to challenge myself in how freely I can  express myself.”

Symptoms of an armoured Torso , Belly, Throat or Genitals may incude:
⚠️ problems breathing deeply
⚠️ problems feeling safe
⚠️ problems speaking up
⚠️ problems speaking the truth
⚠️ overthinking
⚠️ anger issues
⚠️ passive aggressive
⚠️ easily irritated
⚠️ back pains
⚠️ constant tension in the pelvic area
⚠️ belly aches
⚠️ menstrual pains
⚠️ numb areas or total numbness
⚠️ slouching in the shoulders
⚠️ lack of sensitivity
⚠️ problems feeling deep emotions & love
⚠️ worrying
⚠️ fearful
⚠️ low self-confidence
⚠️ hard tissue or lumps along the walls of the yoni
⚠️ dryness during sexual activities
⚠️ sexual anxiety
⚠️ fear of intimacy
⚠️ inability experiencing deeper more subtle orgasms
⚠️ no orgasms at all
⚠️ premature ejaculation
⚠️ problems maintaining or getting an erection
⚠️ lack of sensitivity
⚠️ overly sensitive
⚠️ contracted and hard inner muscles
⚠️ a hard and overly sensitive cervix
⚠️ pain during love-making
⚠️ low energy ownership

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Possible nudity: 🌱 🌱 🌱 🌱 (Nudity is possible, by your own choice, NOT mandatory)
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Body de-armouring can be done externally, internally, energetically, through vibration, and via specific conversation and talk-therapy.

External de-armouring works on the outside of the body while internal de-armouring works on the parts of the body we can enter: the yoni (vagina), the anus and the throat.

Conversation-based de-armouring, on the other hand, uses coaching and talk-therapy to probe, touch and help you express your “pain body” through words and sounds, without touching your body at all.

It is important to de-armour the whole body in its entirety, as the armour, or emotional blockages, are spread throughout the body. To do this may take months of self-practise in combination with regular treatments. However, even one session will make a huge difference in helping you move forward in your life.

Many people find de-armouring very natural - a process that unfolds step-by-step, leaving them in full control of the situation at all times. Once you experience it a few times, learn how it’s done, and feel its immediate benefits, it can even become a regular practise with your spouse, partner, or a friend. De-armouring is also a great way to begin your love-making session. If you de-armour each other as part of foreplay you’ll find your love-making will reach new depths and potency.

Health of our root is the root of our health
Our bodily base is where we store our deepest and darkest fears, phobias, anger, rage, shame and guilt. Pelvic floor muscles, the anal sphincter, the tissue inside the Yoni (vagina), the penis, and the whole pelvic area, are the places we need to relax and soften if we want to achieve a healthy and balanced body and let go of the toxic feelings mentioned above. Having the bodily base relaxed not only allows the life force energy, or ‘Kundalini’, to travel freely through the body - revitalizing it and filling it with necessary juice and power - but also heals you from a number of illnesses that arise from having a contracted and tight base. In addition to that, relaxing the base will help you heal sexual dis-functions, wounds from sexual abuse or misconduct, and much more.

Benefits of Full-Body, Torso , Belly, Throat and/or Genitals de-armouring and massage may incude:
🌿 increased capacity to feel and experience love
🌿 letting go of worrying, holding back & feeling burdened
🌿 increased breath capacity
🌿 improved posture
🌿 improving digestion
🌿 letting go of anger, frustration & (passive) aggression
🌿 letting go of parental, ancestral, past-life & karmic issues
🌿 letting go of intimacy issues
🌿 letting go of lack of trust
🌿 less fearful
🌿 less shame, guilt & inhibitions
🌿 more confidence
🌿 better ability to speak your truth
🌿 increased capacity to breath deeply
🌿 looser in jaw and throat area
🌿 opening up to a more powerful voice
🌿 increased sensitivity
🌿 increased libido
🌿 better able to feel deeper pleasure in heart and body
🌿 better able to keeping your penis hard, alive, potent and at the same time still sensitive
🌿 increasing the size of your penis
🌿 increasing your confidence as a lover and a man
🌿 increasing your stamina
🌿 increasing the length of your orgasms
🌿 increasing your capacity to delay & enhance your orgasms
🌿 helping you with different types of sexual disfunctions
🌿 increasing your ability to feel deeply and connecting to your heart during sex🌿 helping you become a better lover
🌿 more grounded
🌿 increased capacity to flow energy through the whole body
🌿 dramatic increase in flow of energy from penis to spine & Kundalini (for men)🌿 dramatic increase in non-ejaculation capacity (for men)

About Tantra
Tantra is about embracing all parts of human existence and especially the more hidden sides because blocking of those energies have large consequences on our feeling of belonging and level of happiness.

About Tantra
Freedom from all mind-constructs, from all mind-games; freedom from all structures; freedom from the other. Tantra is a space to be.
Tantra is Liberation.
Tantra is not a religion in the ordinary sense -- Religion again is a mind game; religion gives you a certain pattern. A Christian has a certain pattern, so has the Hindu, so has the Muslim. Religion gives you a certain style, a discipline.
Tantra takes all disciplines away.
When there is no discipline, when there is no enforced order, a totally different kind of order arises in you. What Lao Tzu calls TAO, what Buddha calls DHARMA -- that arises in you. That is not anything done by you; it happens to you.

Tantra simply creates space for it to happen. It does not even invite, it does not wait; it simply creates a space. And when the space is ready, the whole flows in.

The above scripture is part of the Foundation on which Tantra Secrets is built. In all our workshops we aim to guide you to a liberation from the mind-games, liberation from structures, liberation from the other. So you can live life from your unique authenticity.

Is genital massage or de-armouring mandatory
No, that is absolutely NOT mandatory or neccesary!

You can attend this workshop also without engaging in any genital de-armouring or massage. We will have plenty of non-genital Tantric massage & de-armouring options for those who prefer not to go there or who prefer to decide once they see the exercises.

So, we repeat to be very clear: you are fully welcome also if you do not wish to have a genital de-armouring or massage.

Also, there will be NO group pressure to engage in this in any sneaky or gaslighting way. You engage in what you are comfortable in. Nothing more!

In order for a massage and/or de-armouring to be benificial it is of the utmost importance that you feel safe and comfortable. Therefor we will never ask you to go beyond what you are comfortable with.

I am single or not in a relationship, can I still join?
Yes you can. Because it has many advantages to learn these skills and liberating your body before you enter a relationship. You chances of any relationship fulfilling your needs dramatically increase by learning these tools.

Do I need to bring a partner?
No, you can come alone if you like. If you want to bring your partner, you are more than welcome.
Being partnered up with the opposite sex is NOT guaranteed if you don't bring a partner.

I am joining as a couple, do we have to work with other people?
No. You can do the entire workshop with your partner!

And also, if you want you can join the partner rotation circle after each exercise to get different imprints and learnings, but this is completely possible as wel, but fully optional to chose from moment to moment.
You decide what feels right for you. And this may change during the workshop and it may also stay the same, both is completely fine!


Roger is the founder of the Tantra Secrets - Consciousness Expansion Academy and the lead workshop facilitator. He has an extensive background in Tantra, Daoism, Energy Reading, Energy Play, Hypnosis (Sexual & Regular), Latin Dance, Consent work, Authentic Communication, Trauma Release, Deconditioning, Sacred Sexuality & Meditation.

Wheel of Consent© Certified Facilitator
He has completed the 5-day "Like a Pro" Wheel of Consent© training in May 2019 and has completed the Wheel of Consent© Facilitator Certification Training with Betty Martin in July 2021. Currently he is in the process of the final certification, and officially still under the title of "Wheel of Consent© Certified Facilitator in Training".
Therefore, the topic of Consent & Boundaries therefore are always practiced and deepened in Rogers workshops!

Former High Paid Consultant
A former high paid independent consultant for multinationals, he made a drastic switch in his life towards the mystical & spiritual side of life.
His passion is maximizing human potential, happiness & authenticity!

Roger runs workshops on the topics of Personal, Emotional & Spiritual Development, Consciousness Expansion, Tantra, Emotional Freedom, Kundalini Awakening, Wheel of Consent, Conscious Relating, Conscious Kink, Polarity Play, Female Empowerment, Tantra into Zouk, Tantric Masculinity, Sex Art & Implosive Orgasms!

Licensed Energy Reader
He is a graduated & licensed Energy Healer and specializes in personal Energy Readings.
Through Energy Readings he communicates to you that which your body and your soul is trying to tell to your conscious mind, but is not being heard.

He is a trained hypnotist in the field of female orgasmic capacity enhancement. Through other hypnosis practises he also trains people to profoundly relax in a matter of seconds (without use of sexual energy).
Subsequently, the practise of hypnosis has given him a tremendous understanding of the workings of the subconscious mind, primal sexuality and the general potential of NLP and positive self-(re)programming.

Inner Child Healing
Furthermore, he works extensively with Childhood Deconditioning & Inner Child tools through which he facilitates the process of deconditioning from the negative imprints from childhood.

Gateways for Fulfillment
In Tantra, Daoism & Spirituality he found many gateways to bring more joy, happiness, and fulfillment to our lives and he has a passion to spread this wisdom!


Roger is the lead facilitator for the following workshops:

Roger is the organisor & lead-assistant for the following workshops:

Furthermore, he offers coaching (programs) in the following fields

There will always be a high Level female Tantric practitioner assisting to represent and deeply embody the Feminine principle. For the Tantric Massage & De-armouring retreats Jolien Heeringa will be our Female Facilitator.
Sometimes we also have additional female facilitators or assistants present, that will be tbd.

Jolien is a certified healthcare psychologist working with people with trauma for more then 13 years. She started in 2009 with an internship at a center for people with PTSD, and throughout her career working with trauma always fascinated her.

As a professional psychologist she has also worked with people with ADHD, Autism, Addiction, Depression and Anxiety disorders.

She is trained and certified in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR and Mindfulness.
Currently she works with clients with severe eating disorders.

What sets her apart is her capacity to not just focus on solving the superficial problem as prescribed by the system, but to see the person in its totality. She developed a holistic approach where it is about the process of every human being, their blockages and how to bring people to the next level in their life. The importance of using the body in therapy also makes her look for ways outside of the regular healthcare system.

Her passion for dancing and teaching Zouk since 2009 made her dive deeper in the understanding of connection with and through the body.

When she discovered Tantra, it opened up the pathway to connect her knowledge of trauma and the human mind with body oriented modalities. She is now studying body-oriented psychotherapy, breathwork and de-armouring to help people heal energetic blockages and trauma stored in the body.

She is a freelance Zouk teacher since 2010. Since end 2020 Jolien is also part of the Tantra Secrets team, and co-facilitates Tantra workshops, breathwork and De-armouring sessions.

She works together with Jasper, where they offer the perfect balance in the masculine and feminine energy in massage, body work sessions and plant ceremonies.

Jasper, has an extensive background in Bodywork, Tantra, Massage, Breathwork, De-armouring, Trauma release and Emotional release. Starting in 2012 with different forms of massage, extensive experience in Latin dance, Tantra & Bodywork, he found his passion in healing people from their trauma and unlock the body of energetic blockages. After in depth studies of different modalities of De-armouring and Trauma release, he started giving professional de-armouring sessions in 2016.

Through the years Jasper also experienced the healing powers of different plant medicines (Psilocybin, San Pedro, Ayahuasca) and added this to his toolbox in healing others as well.

Through these studies and experiences he has an tremendous amount of knowledge on how to unlock the human body to it's natural state of bliss and relaxation. His to-the-point and all-in approach helps people to dive deep into their process and get a full-on healing experience.

Next to the workshops Jasper gives at Tantra Secrets, he specialized in private bodywork sessions where he can also combine the healing powers of plant medicine with all his knowledge on de-armouring, bodywork and breathwork.

Registration is necessary to secure your spot:


Upcoming editions:
► 26 - 30 April 2024 (5 days, 4 nights)
■ Start: Friday 26 April at 14.00
■ End: Tuesday 30 April at 19.00

Registration is necessary to secure your spot & early bird discount: www.tantrasecrets.academy/eventregistration 


Workshop fee
695,- standard price for single participation, including meals & accommodation.

Spread Payment Plan
Two payments of € 353,-
Three payments of € 237,-
Discounts may be subtracted from last payment.

● € 35,- for cash payment

● € 75,- occasion couple discount (per person)
● € 50,- Bring-a-Friend (newby to Tantra Secrets)
(Discount applies to BOTH of you)

● € 150,- students / low income
● € 50,- PhD Students
●  30% for repeaters 
●  50% on workshop fee when earning income in former communistic countries.

Early-Bird Discounts
€ 100,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 3  months before starting date of workshop
65,- discount on workshop fee when signed up 2  months before starting date of workshop
€ 35,- discount on workshop fee when signed up   1  month before starting date of workshop

Upgrade option
One person room: € 80,- for 4 nights
This option depends on availability.
If not available, you will be in a 2-person room.
When available, upgrade needs to be paid at registration in cash.

Payment options
Cash (€ 35,- discount) 
Bank transfer



You will receive 3 meals per day: breakfast, lunch & dinner.
All meals will be 99% Bio-Organic & 100% Vegan, with lots of gluten-free options!
There will be a pre-workshop lunch served.
After the workshop we will have an included goodbye dinner, which you can also choose to do as a takeaway. 
● Allergies can be notified in registration form.
● All meals will have ingredient overviews.

Location & Parking
Retreat center in the Noordoostpolder, at about 1¼ hrs northeast from Amsterdam/Utrecht/Arnhem. 
Use "Emmeloord" for rough estimation of travel time.
Parking is free and in front of the retreat center.

Public  Transport: bus stop next to the location.
Carpooling: Carpooling options in registration form.

Exact address will be send upon registration.

Registration is necessary to secure your spot & early bird discount: